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Steal My Sunshine by VanHeist Steal My Sunshine by VanHeist
So...yeah, not an especially funny (or fun) comic to post, but I felt like this was kind of an important statement to make. Or something to point out, anyway. I felt a pretty lousy putting Didi in this situation, but life can be lousy sometimes.

This is sort of a companion/alternate piece to , and I drew this one because, well, as fun as it is to imagine Gogo responding to this sort of crap on Didi's behalf in her usual manner, the fact is, this is how such a situation would go down in a more real way--absent of an avenging force like Gogo. (And the situation depicted here is pretty damned clean, really). It's destructive, demoralizing, and usually goes unpunished or unanswered. And it hurts when you're occasionally reminded that people can deliberately punch the joy and beauty right out of life with a few words.

I'll try not to make a habit of downer stuff like this, but this is one of those things in life that sticks in my craw.

peace :salute:
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Twilight16Master Mar 26, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I was shown this in a discussion on Feminism. great piece, with an important message. sometimes, we all get objectified, and women have it the worst. being treated like you aren't even human is the worst. people have a tendency to forget that they aren't entitled to another person's attributes just because they want it.
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:iconsniper-rin:
Why am I not surprised there's wall of text replies everywhere in the comment section? Not that it's a bad thing-in fact, it's rather wonderful seeing people debate about this.

But yeah in my home-town, a lot of guys will complain that they never see a cute girl [in a skirt] and this comic kind of explains why.

It's just sad how it's more socially acceptable to wear pajamas/sweats in public than wearing a nice dress.
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Carameja Feb 12, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Aaahw... Didi.. *hugs her* Don't worry hunny.
Next time I'll join you and smash their faces with bricks!
Eventho I most likely will take allong my fryingpan XD
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a3dp Feb 11, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Lol, poor Didi.  Some guys can be real pigs.    
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:iconstarwarsmaniac:
Yeah... they bring great shame to us other guys and give good guys a bad name
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:iconlonevision:
Aww.... well, to be honest, she needs a tougher skin, especially if she ends up in the dark cradling a cup of hot cocoa/coffee/tea. Just because some guy got an ogle-full and crassly let her know how she made him feel in his miniscule loins doesn't mean it makes one iota of difference in how she should perceive herself thereafter. Words don't hurt unless you let them.

Now, if those guys got physical, that's a whole 'nother story.
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Susiron Jan 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Words can hurt and not everyone has the strength to overpower the pain they are capable of causing. You clearly understand nothing of language if you honestly believe that people cannot/should not feel bad over how they are verbally treated by their peers. 

People should be mindful of what they say to others. You can never know for sure how what you say will affect another individual and if what you say earns a NEGATIVE reaction, then it is your responsibility to review and possibly correct your toxic behavior. 

Do not victim blame.
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:iconlonevision:
Susiron, before you start reading and huffing and puffing and championing the cause, you seem like a very cute person and you have lovely art and I like you despite not knowing you. This reply is only to clear up some stuff. <3

"Do not victim blame."

First of all, and most importantly, I am not blaming the victim. I'm implying the receiver shouldn't perceive themselves a victim by accepting someone else's crass words, because, no matter what, there's going to be challenges in the form of small minded individuals, like a bully, or condescending idiots, or cat-callers, or whatever. I still believe she should NOT be sitting in the dark, alone, cradling a cup of whatever. She should still be out and about, wearing whatever she wants to wear, and letting the words of a small-minded, insignificant individual slide off like water off a duck's back. He has no power over her nor her choices nor how she should perceive herself.

"You clearly understand nothing of language if you honestly believe that people cannot/should not feel bad over how they are verbally treated by their peers."

Second of all, I didn't imply at all that I believed people cannot be hurt by words. "Cannot" means you have no alternative, and it happens to those who suffer verbal abuse from those they should love and trust. But that isn't the case, here, and my original reply indicated the situation faced in the comic. "Should not" is different. I believe people definitely SHOULD NOT be hurt if they have a choice in the matter at all. By the way, the individuals in the comic are not Didi's "peers," as in, from my perception, they are not her equal. They are nothing, and that is how she should treat them. By the way, I'd like to point out that you delivered a form of verbal attack when you conditionally indicated that I "clearly understand nothing of language." But it's cool, because /I/ don't think I meet your condition, despite, apparently, qualifying for half of it.

"...not everyone has the strength to overpower the pain they are capable of causing." ... "People should be mindful of what they say to others."

While I /do/ believe everyone should be considerate of people and only say nice things to each other, I am not naive and I know that this will never be a perfect world.  I think I hit your "berserk button," somehow, which caused you to generalize my response, but I was simply referring to the hypothetical situation faced in the comic. I thought it was obvious, otherwise I would've been more specific. Anyway, saying not everyone has the strength to overcome painful words is very... disheartening, actually, and I would sincerely hope that people find this strength or else they're going to have a lot of trouble in life if they cry over every little taunt or nasty remark. Most importantly, and this is a whole 'nother can of worms I'm opening, but DO NOT HURT YOURSELF OR COMMIT SUICIDE.

Finally, I'd like to nip further commentary in the bud, and also apologize to VanHeist, every reviewer of/visitor to this comic, and DeviantArt in general, and, why not, THE WHOLE ENTIRE WOOOOOORLD for making this long ass post... but NOTHING smacks my own berserk button like a generalized assumption. I do, however, hope not everyone found my reply/replies as callous, negative or toxic.

tl;dr: fuck the world and their mean words and just be happy being you. <3
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Susiron Jan 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You didn't hit any "berserker button," and I'm not generalizing anything that you have stated. I disagree with your opinion, and stand by what I have stated. This long and rather condescending response has cleared up nothing and, if anything, has concreted the fact that I feel you are victim blaming.

 Talking as if people /should/ have the power to overcome verbal abuse is very ableist. It's nice to imagine that people will hold their heads over high water and ignore nasty remarks that they receive, but many people CAN'T and insinuating that people SHOULD NOT feel bad over verbal abuse is problematic. There's a thing called emotion, and negative emotion does, gasp, happen to exist.

I'm not even going to get into self harm and suicide with you, as I can't see that ending anywhere pleasant. 
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:iconlonevision:
You call me condescending, but I have to point that finger back at you. You're missing my point, but I now understand yours. A mental handicap/disability falls under someone who has no choice, which I did refer to in the above post though not specifically.

If you are inferring that Didi may have a disability like that, then I can see where you're coming from.
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