This is sort of a companion/alternate piece to , and I drew this one because, well, as fun as it is to imagine Gogo responding to this sort of crap on Didi's behalf in her usual manner, the fact is, this is how such a situation would go down in a more real way--absent of an avenging force like Gogo. (And the situation depicted here is pretty damned clean, really). It's destructive, demoralizing, and usually goes unpunished or unanswered. And it hurts when you're occasionally reminded that people can deliberately punch the joy and beauty right out of life with a few words.
I'll try not to make a habit of downer stuff like this, but this is one of those things in life that sticks in my craw.
Respect will get you far
So if a man can't respect a woman first, he will never get the woman he deserves.
Women can only lookout for themselves.
All we can do is try to encourage people to be nicer, do nicer things, say nicer things and show them the good it can do to change their bad ways.
Gogo should punch them in the face
It is not the fault of the woman, but the person who is objectifying her."dont do this or you'll be objectified" is bullshit because no matter what you wear or do, their behavior has shown that your SOLE GODDAMN existence is enough to attract such attention and get objectified if such attitudes are not dealt with.
The victim blaming "asking for it" is bullshit, because the perpetrators are the one's performing the damn act.
Well Gee, maybe it's because you treat them like slabs of meat!
Like to go Gogo on those Dastards! By bustng their bones!
But yeah in my home-town, a lot of guys will complain that they never see a cute girl [in a skirt] and this comic kind of explains why.
It's just sad how it's more socially acceptable to wear pajamas/sweats in public than wearing a nice dress.
Next time I'll join you and smash their faces with bricks!
Eventho I most likely will take allong my fryingpan XD
Now, if those guys got physical, that's a whole 'nother story.
"Do not victim blame."
First of all, and most importantly, I am not blaming the victim. I'm implying the receiver shouldn't perceive themselves a victim by accepting someone else's crass words, because, no matter what, there's going to be challenges in the form of small minded individuals, like a bully, or condescending idiots, or cat-callers, or whatever. I still believe she should NOT be sitting in the dark, alone, cradling a cup of whatever. She should still be out and about, wearing whatever she wants to wear, and letting the words of a small-minded, insignificant individual slide off like water off a duck's back. He has no power over her nor her choices nor how she should perceive herself.
"You clearly understand nothing of language if you honestly believe that people cannot/should not feel bad over how they are verbally treated by their peers."
Second of all, I didn't imply at all that I believed people cannot be hurt by words. "Cannot" means you have no alternative, and it happens to those who suffer verbal abuse from those they should love and trust. But that isn't the case, here, and my original reply indicated the situation faced in the comic. "Should not" is different. I believe people definitely SHOULD NOT be hurt if they have a choice in the matter at all. By the way, the individuals in the comic are not Didi's "peers," as in, from my perception, they are not her equal. They are nothing, and that is how she should treat them. By the way, I'd like to point out that you delivered a form of verbal attack when you conditionally indicated that I "clearly understand nothing of language." But it's cool, because /I/ don't think I meet your condition, despite, apparently, qualifying for half of it.
"...not everyone has the strength to overpower the pain they are capable of causing." ... "People should be mindful of what they say to others."
While I /do/ believe everyone should be considerate of people and only say nice things to each other, I am not naive and I know that this will never be a perfect world. I think I hit your "berserk button," somehow, which caused you to generalize my response, but I was simply referring to the hypothetical situation faced in the comic. I thought it was obvious, otherwise I would've been more specific. Anyway, saying not everyone has the strength to overcome painful words is very... disheartening, actually, and I would sincerely hope that people find this strength or else they're going to have a lot of trouble in life if they cry over every little taunt or nasty remark. Most importantly, and this is a whole 'nother can of worms I'm opening, but DO NOT HURT YOURSELF OR COMMIT SUICIDE.
Finally, I'd like to nip further commentary in the bud, and also apologize to VanHeist, every reviewer of/visitor to this comic, and DeviantArt in general, and, why not, THE WHOLE ENTIRE WOOOOOORLD for making this long ass post... but NOTHING smacks my own berserk button like a generalized assumption. I do, however, hope not everyone found my reply/replies as callous, negative or toxic.
tl;dr: fuck the world and their mean words and just be happy being you. <3
If you are inferring that Didi may have a disability like that, then I can see where you're coming from.
If matters. I think she looks perfectly lovely in that dress!
But I'd also ask why you feel the need to fall into the "asking for it" camp, when that assigns a certain level of inevitability that sidesteps the issue. In practical terms, yes, you'd expect a possibly lewd reaction. But this is the problem: it's not inevitable. I'm not saying anyone can dress however they want without consequence, but if we shift the focus from "asking for it" to "resisting the urge to be an asshole" i think that's where the root is. There are ways for people to feel good about their bodies and their looks and for others to enjoy it without grinding everything to a dick-swinging halt.
Short version: I see your point, but you may be missing mine.
Poor Didi... I almost think some people do things like this, making perverted comments and such, not just because they hope what they say will come true, but also just to be mean. These guys probably don't expect a girl will lift up her skirt because they ask, but they don't care about how their words make her feel. Or maybe they do know, and just want to ruin her day.
On a different note, I love how you colored this; the first few panels really look like they are outside, in the sun. That is a hard thing to pull off, but you did it! A fantastic picture that is also worth a thousand words.
Says one other.
Thanks for taking this on VanHeist
Here's where we shrug our shoulders and shift the blame onto the women for dressing a certain way or being in certain places. Which is certainly debatable, but it's awfully forgiving towards men, and suggests that we as a whole don't know any better and should be given all the freedom to act as we please while women should hold themselves to greater responsibility. A little unfair, I think.
Every man is at fault for making physical advances, but those types I don't think are deterred by rejection, they're straight up evil people. What you dress like, how you behave, what social norms, laws or anything really won't prevent those.
Honestly I don't see the problem with a guy trying to hit on a woman, it's all come down to time, place, what you say and reaction. There's a time and place for everything, and the first inkling she's not happy with it, leave it. Men tend to play aggressive and be stubborn when it's really the worst time to.
That being said some women should be a little more firm when they are uncomfortable, and the rest of us to watch out for when someone needs help.